In relationships and marriages today, we find that many secrets are hidden or kept away from our spouse and, by so doing, we might begin to have problems and challenges in our various homes. It is not everyone that feels completely comfortable engaging in self-disclosure, even to the people we hold most dear.
Feminine Corner went to town where we sought people’s opinions on the issue.
Mr. Eze Emeka says, “As a man, it is needful to keep secret from your spouse. If you must live long you must not expose all. Reveal some to her and keep some, for you cannot always predict a woman’s reaction.
Mr. Udom Kingsley says, “To a large extent, vital things should be kept secret, and others should be shared. This will save the relationship. Many relationships don’t work out because when secrets are revealed to your spouse, it might cause hatred or quarrel.
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Mrs. Bunmi Olushola says, “Keeping secrets in a relationship is a danger sign to that relationship. It can destroy that relationship in a short while if exposed, so it is better to let your spouse know in time about your past present and future plans so as to help the relationship to last longer and healthier”.
Mr. Joel Ikechukwu Okafor says, “Keeping secrets from your spouse is not the best ideal in a relationship; it shows your interest in the relationship is selfish and also you don’t have the good and growth of the relationship at heart.
Mr. Bidemi Adeleke says, “It is not optional, it should not be tried, a good relationship must be devoid of secrets and for a relationship to work out fine, both parties must co-operate”.
Mr. Peter Ojegba says, “Keeping secrets in relationships is a cankerworm that eats up relationships unknowingly. It is better to say the truth early enough than to hide it, because it might be too late to repair the damage, when exposed”.
Mrs. Racheal Oghenewede says, “Most ladies love hiding secrets in the name of privacy, but no relationship survives with that. What you don’t want others to do to you, never, in turn, do it to others. But, for me, I hate keeping secrets in my relationship”.
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Oluwakemi Lawal says, “Almost all relationships have secrets or there must always be some level of secrecy between both parties. It can’t be ruled out completely from a relationship”.
Mr. Kingsley Ohromena says, “Keeping secret is not the best because both spouses need each other to grow financially, mentally, emotionally and otherwise. Mark 10: 8 says, and the two shall become one flesh; so they are no longer two but one flesh, this means that, in all they do, they represent each other. Thus, they should be able to share everything as one.
According to Miss Tobi Adeleye, “it’s not good to keep secrets because once your secrets have been found out, your spouse may start to keep secrets too”.
Mr. Jimin Wuese says, “It’s not advisable to keep secrets in relationships and marriages. During courtship you need to tell your spouse what happened in your past life. If you truly love your spouse, you won’t keep anything from him because, if you do, you are betraying the trust he has in you”.
Nothing is more counter-productive to growing an open and honest relationship than keeping secrets from each other.
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