With Chinelo Nwangene
In line with the popular aphorism: “Look before you leap’, many spinsters hardly jump at marriage proposal from bachelors without performing due-diligence on the prospective suitor. While many ladies have a long list of qualities and conditions that a prospective groom must satisfy before they offer their hand in marriage, others have just a brief checklist. Feminine Corner asked ladies to provide their top five marriage proposal checklist and their responses are as varied as they are similar. Enjoy them.
Anyanwu Helen, Awka.
His beliefs and attitude towards God and fellow human being are important. If he is God-fearing and respects and care for others, then we are good. I will evaluate his sense of reasoning, enlightenment and attitude towards my education, opinion and welfare. His willingness to accommodate my views, take good counsel and show concern and respect towards my family. Then, he must be the kind of person that is capable of taking care of a family and not the lazy type.
Aghadinuno Blessing, Awka Etiti.
I will consider the person’s physical appearance first. Once the physical quality is ok, then the person’s behavior and other things eyes don’t see will be evaluated. If I am certain that he loves me, then I will check his family background to see if it’s something that will suit me. Ofcourse, I will not accept a marriage proposal from someone that’s not God-fearing or without good character. The last but not the least on my check list is his business/professional background as well as financial status. I cannot go into a marriage with someone I am not sure of what he is doing for a living or whether he has something to cater for and sustain a marriage/family.
Chidiebere Nnolim, Awka.
What I will consider in a guy before accepting his marriage proposal is whether he is presentable. This means, he must possess the physical attributes that I like and must dress well. I cannot marry someone that’s not presentable. Secondly, such a guy must be close to God and have time for God’s work. He must be romantic and caring such that we must enjoy each other’s company.
He must also be hard working. I cannot marry a lazy man because it will affect the family in many ways. Finally, he must have good family background.
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Oge Eze, Port Harcourt.
I will check whether he shows understanding. I cannot live with someone that we cannot reason together as couple because I hate quarrels. Without trust, the marriage cannot work out. If he is not trustworthy, then, it’s a ‘no’ for me. Some guys are not reliable at all. They can lie or misbehave and expect you to forgive them at all times. I will also consider if the guy is caring and loving or not. Most guys don’t care for their wives. What’s marriage without care and love?
Above all, a guy who does not have the fear of God has no place in my life as husband. He must demonstrate that he is a God-fearing man who worships God in truth and also has respect for fellow human beings.
Okonkwo Blessing, Ebonyi.
First thing is where he is coming from – his family – especially to know how they treat outsiders. I will then consider whether he is God-fearing. A man who does not fear God or have good Christian background is capable of anything.
Ofcourse, I must consider if he is educated and has a good job or business capable of putting food on the table for a family. He must be caring and loving as well as possess good physical appearance.
Amaka Ononenyi, Lagos.
As a Christian, I will make sure he is a believer like me inorder not to have issues of religion in the marriage. I will consider if he is cool headed or wild; to avoid domestic violence.
Finally, I will check the family background of the guy to know if it’s a responsible and respected one in the society.
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Chidinma Ogbonna, Port Harcourt.
I will seek God’s counsel and be guided. If positive, I will go into courtship, to know about him – his likes and dislikes, feeding culture and all that. Other things: sense of humor, dress sense and homeliness. I love a God-fearing man but not necessarily a religious fanatic.
Ifeoma Nwankwo, Lagos.
One of the first things I will consider is whether he has the fear and love for God and fellow human beings. I will give his proposal consideration is he is tall and huge. He must be someone that values me and my parents and cares about our welfare. He should be someone that doesn’t smoke cigarettes or live unhealthy lifestyle.
Chioma Chinyerenwa, PortHarcourt.
I have todiscover and be satisfied with the qualities of his inner self orcharacter. A man without good character cannot be the father of my children. Secondly, his job or business matters a lot to me. I cannot marry a man that engages in a fraudulent job or business or someone that has no ambition. I will also investigate his family background to know if he comes from a good home or not. I cannot marry someone that does not fear and respect God. And the last, but not the least, is his appearance.
Prisca Ugoh, Lagos.
I will check his height and physique, his dressing, character and his job or business. I cannot marry a criminal just because he used money to charm me. I will then check out his family background because marriage is not friendship. Family background and relatives play important roles in marriage.
Chidinma Udeh, Onitsha.
The first thing to check is whether he is really serious and ready to marry. Also, his family background matters. I must also consider if the person truly loves me or not. He must have fear of God and be ready to handle issues without third party.
Obianuju Danielson, Abuja.
The first I’ll consider is his lifestyle and character;his attitude to religion, literacy and physical appearance. He must look nice and be hard working. He must be handsome, homely and hard-working.
Onyinye Ilodigwe, Awka.
The first thing I check out in a prospective suitor is his personability to know if he has the charisma and good character. His level of reasoning matters a lot because I cannot marry someone that we cannot understand each other and plan. His physical attribute especially height also counts. Ofcourse, he should be caring,loving and an attention giver and finally he should have fear of God and must be hard working.
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