How to Establish Ground Rules for Your Long Distance Relationship
The best piece of long distance relationship advice I can give is establish ground rules in the beginning. I think the fundamental differences between a long distance relationship and a standard relationship is such that participants need to be more proactive at the onset in establishing a “framework” to build the relationship in. The “framework” I am speaking of is truly the foundation that your relationship will be built upon. Rome wasn’t built in a day and neither will your long distance relationship. A good way to start though is to establish a set of ground rules that you and your partner agree upon and think will be a solid foundation on which your relationship will build.
Establishing ground rules is something you will want to do at the onset of your relationship. This will eliminate any surprises that can have some major consequences.
To date or not to date that is the question- You both have to agree on this. You will want to discuss whether you can see other people or if this is going to be a monogamous relationship. If you do agree on an open relationship then you will also need to discuss the ground rules of those other relationships. There has to be a clear line that can’t be crossed.
Chatterbox- You don’t get to see each other or be physically with each other so you have communicate often. Setting up ground rules about communication will be very helpful to your relationship. You should discuss how often to communicate, the methods of communication and set up a schedule for communication. Discuss the different ways you may want to communicate. Today you can use the telephone, instant messaging, email and many other options thanks to technology. If you lose the communication then your relationship will suffer, so it is important that this is a major focus of your relationship
Visiting each other- You will want to try to have regular visits with your long distance love. This is an area that could be a challenge, but you both need to commit to visits. You should discuss how to handle things is there is an issue and someone will miss a scheduled visit. You don’t want anyone to end up with hard feelings if a visit needs to be rescheduled.
I hope the above will help you in finding a “where to start” in your long distance love. The most important piece of long distance relationship advice I can give is to really stress at the onset of where you are, where you want to be, and how you’re going to get there. By setting ground rules at the very beginning I think your relationship will be able to achieve happiness in a more efficient manner.